My Dom couple sent me this photo.

With the note: We saw this and thought of you.

Cannot wait for our play date this weekend. Let’s hope that the above image is a good representation of how they conduct their scenes.

I have been drooling over women recently, just aching to feel a soft, curvy body (even if it is a few decades older and saggier than my own).

And I have been similarly aching to be dominated again. I’ll write a full post about this at some point, but I have realized that I very infrequently, if ever, am able to climax without fantasizing about some type of power imbalance sex scene. And these scenes are becoming slightly more extreme over time. Honestly, it concerns me a little. I don’t want to become desensitized to the point where I cannot enjoy vanilla sex at all. I’m still following my White Rabbit, and I still want to explore all the avenues of my pleasure. Yet… I am beginning to be slightly afraid that the sheer intensity of BDSM means I will be numbing myself to the more subtle sexual experiences.


9 comments on “My Dom couple sent me this photo.

  1. Yingtai says:

    Yay! I have been wanting to hear an update on this.

    I’m afraid I’m the wrong person to ask about desensitisation. I’ve always been completely inert to vanilla stimuli. That said, I’ve almost had the opposite experience. My desires get more extreme and frightening at times when I don’t have a real-life outlet. Is that any comfort?

    • That’s an interesting perspective. Definitely varies from person to person. In my own experience, my fantasies, sex acts, porn interests, and so on, have all ramped up over the years. I need a constant increase in stimulation, and that fact bothers me a bit.

  2. I agree with the person above; I’ve been wanting to read more about this, and, glad that you will hopefully have a kick ass time this weekend!! Yay vagina fun times!

    I think, and maybe it’s just me, but mixing up vanilla with bdsm helps to not desensitize the experience. My only long term fwb that was into bdsm, would still want vanilla sex. It wasn’t every other time, but I felt the randomness of being tied up helped me like both equally.

    Hopefully my pre-caffeine rant made sense.

    • Thank you for your insight. Being someone who (like you, if I understand correctly) likes kinky sex but isn’t so much a “lifestyle” submissive, it is probably the best option to mix things up. Chocolate and vanilla swiiiiiiirl. 😉

      • You completely understand correctly 😉
        Someone asked me if I wanted a swirl frosty yesterday, speaking of chocolate and vanilla swirl. I said no cause I wanted my chocolate craving fulfilled, but yeah…that was random. Sorry

  3. Cava Supernova says:

    Maybe kink and vanilla act as a nice counterpoint to each other – like gin and tonic. Or maybe I just think too much about booze. Worrying :0

    • There is always wisdom in booze 🙂

      The problem is….tonic water by itself is boring and yucky!

      • Cava Supernova says:

        Not if it’s a really good tonic (like Fever Tree) and with plenty of ice.
        A good tonic is like a form of tease and denial,because it’s sitting there, all cool and elegant, and you’re just yearning for a lovely measure of Hendricks or Bombay Sapphire gin to go in there as well 🙂

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